Hans Christian King on Knowing Yourself and Reaching Toward Spirit
Erik opened by pointing to all of this as information about the soul, about the relationship a person carries with themselves. His question was practical: how does that self-knowledge get carried into a soul mate relationship, whether with a lover, a friend, or a parent?
Hans put the starting point plainly. Become the fullest version of yourself first. Skip that step and you end up acting out of lack, hungry for recognition, hungry to be told you're acceptable. When you can look inward and say, I am that I am, I am perfect in this moment, and actually mean it, something starts to shine out of you. Other people pick up on it. Hans described it as a glow, and he insisted it reorders a life.
He mentioned the recommendations and opinions collected on his website, a large pile of them, and a repeating note running through them. Hans showed me who I really was. Spirit returned to my life. People wrote about recognizing themselves again, apart from the life they'd been performing. Learning who you are, and getting a grip on the constant chatter in your head: that, Hans said, is the road to a soul mate connection with real spiritual weight.
Erik then raised another of Hans's claims, that a person can relate to Spirit directly, as a two-way exchange. Hans agreed without hesitation. Always. He said we arrived on the planet already doing it. People like to file it under imaginary friends. For years the psychology world treated him as unbalanced, he said, right up until the moment practitioners began referring cases to him: children who heard voices, children who saw people. The attitude flipped. Those same therapists come to him now, and he was careful to say he wasn't bragging, only noting that they want help making sense of what a child might actually be perceiving.
He's spoken at a number of psychology conferences, and he finds the same questions underneath each one. Do we really know where a person is speaking from? Where does the pain sit? His answer threads through all of it: everyone is connected. He reached for scripture, the line about God sending angels to take charge over you. Some people say guides, he noted, others use other names, but the point holds for him. Each person has someone on the other side to call toward and ask for help. You included, he told Erik. We are never alone, not for a second.
That, Hans said, is the message he wants carried at his memorial. Help people grasp that they are never alone. Being alone, in his telling, would be flat-out impossible.